25: Understanding Dysfunction Within The Family Unit with Aspen Robinson

In this episode, Trauma-Informed Coach, Aspen Robinson, joins us to explore the lasting effects of trauma from dysfunctional relationships within the family unit and how it continues to shape our adult lives. With over a decade of experience in the field and profound expertise in family dynamics, Aspen works specifically with adults who still carry the weight of childhood trauma, helping them untangle long-standing emotional patterns and build healthier relationships with themselves and others.

Aspen is currently studying to become a Somatic Therapy Practitioner, which allows her to address trauma that is stored in the body. In this episode, she breaks down what trauma really is, what defines a dysfunctional family, and how unhealed wounds are passed down across generations.

We also dive into how roles like the scapegoat or parentified child can shape someone's sense of self, how cultural beliefs like "boys don’t cry" can deeply impact emotional development, and how parents influence our ability to regulate emotions long after childhood ends. Aspen also shares compassionate guidance on moving through trauma, distinguishing micro vs. macro traumas, and how forgiveness can be part of a healing journey without dismissing the depth of harm experienced.

Whether you’re actively healing or just beginning to ask questions, this episode offers profound insight, clarity, and encouragement for your path forward.

Timestamps

00:00 – Intro
02:22 – Defining Trauma
04:25 – Defining a Dysfunctional Family
08:50 – Passing on Trauma
13:20 – The Impacts of Generational Trauma
18:20 – The Parentified Child
27:25 – The Competitive Parent
29:30 – How to Deal with Fawning
31:20 – Fathers and Sons
36:05 – Nervous System Needs of Young Sons vs. Daughters
38:50 – The Impact of "Boys Don’t Cry"
43:25 – The Scapegoat as an Adult
48:35 – The Impact of Really Strict Parents
52:30 – Children Adopting Parent Archetypes
1:02:51 – The Role of the Father and Mother in Emotion Regulation
1:05:12 – Microtraumas vs. Macrotraumas
1:10:29 – Common Mistakes in Dealing with Trauma
1:13:05 – Forgiveness of Trauma

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Disclaimer

This podcast is for educational purposes only and should not replace the advice of your doctor or physician. Always consult a medical professional before making changes to your diet, lifestyle, or medication protocol.